Taller women dating shorter men
As a blonde, blue-eyed woman of average height, I get asked out a lot more, though I'm not 100% sure dating's actually any easier!
So when people inevitably criticize me for taking men's comments about my height too personally, I'm the first to agree. And I haven't worked this hard to love my body for some guy to nonchalantly tell me how to feel about it over a gin and tonic.
And as I got older, more and more men I dated would comment on it: "I love how I can pick you up," "You're so cute and little," and even, "I'm only dating Chaya-sized girls from now on." I got rid of him shortly after.
One even said explicitly, "I feel so manly with you." It's sort of been a firsthand exercise in how a lot of guys associate traits they see as childlike with femininity — they equate my height with an overall smallness, and that then makes them feel "big," playing into a traditionally desirable gender binary and power structure between men and women.
But over time, I noticed that it was hardly a problem in my dating life — in fact, almost all of the guys I dated in my teens and twenties were six feet or taller.
That's not to say that tall men are better, but that my own physical size didn't restrict me to any specific height range within the straight male population.
So, contrary to popular belief, my dating life on the whole has actually been more successful after transition than it was before, as a cis gay man.